General Notes for those who care
This section contains general notes and pointers for those who care about victims and/or abusers, mostly child sexual abuse victims and abusers, but some of what's here will apply to helping any victims or abusers. There are only a few notes and pointers at the moment, with more coming.
Anyone can help. You don't have to be a teacher, counselor, therapist, or any kind of licensed professional in this area to help. I have no special training or license. I'm just someone who wants to help, and someone who knows a little about the subject from personal experience. If you want to help, just read what's on this site and you will have something to think about.
It is often possible to recognize victims and abusers. Read the FAQ's to find out how.
It is estimated that 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be sexually abused by the time they reach 18.
About 95% of child sexual abuse is done by someone they know, not by a stranger. The abuser usually takes time to gain the child's trust first.
If a child or even a teen isn't getting the love and attention they need from their parents, an abusers job of gaining their trust is easier, BUT even children who have the most loving family can be victims. Children always have room in their hearts for others to come in.
Fathers, and even mothers, have sexually abused their children. Anyone can be an abuser. In some cultures and societies, wives AND children are merely a man's property to do with as he pleases.
Child sexual abusers don't look like bad guys. Even priests and business men can be abusers. Again, anyone can be an abuser.
Most child sexual abusers can't be cured. They can choose to no longer be an abuser, but without help, they won't succeed. The only ones who can be "cured" would be ones who intentionally CHOSE to be an abuser, like fathers from cultures and societies where children are merely a man's property. For most of the world, most child sexual abusers have a mental illness; or an imperfection or defect. It's kind of like homosexuality, except homosexuality usually involves 2-way choices. Kids don't choose to be an adult's lover. With counseling and treatment, they can take control over who they are, but there are no guaranteed "cures" for this yet. Most want to be good people, and the more help they get, the easier it is.
I will be adding more here soon and will eventually be categorizing everything.
I am NOT a counselor, therapist, or any kind of licensed professional in this area and I have not had any training in this field. I'm just someone who knows a little about abuse, a lot about child sexual abuse, and even more about child sexual abusers. I want to help victims and abusers. By helping abusers, we will have less victims to worry about.
To help me make a difference in the world,
or find out how you can make a difference,
go to my newest site at:
Protecting The Children .org