Physical Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Sexual Abuse, Neglect
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This is a new site and doesn't have everything yet, but does contain some information that I hope will be helpful to you. For now, this site is mainly about child sexual abuse, but victims of any abuse, people who want to help stop abuse, and even abusers themselves, may find some useful information here. If you are looking for something specific, or have a question, and don't find what you want here, feel free to contact me with questions by email here or privately and anonymously here.
I put together a speech/article about abuse, child abuse to be more specific, child sexual abuse to be exact. After hearing or reading my speech, many people will have questions, or want to talk to someone, but won't have anyone to ask or talk to. One of the hardest things about being abused is telling someone. The abuser uses many different methods to stop you from talking, but until you talk to someone, the abuse won't stop. If you are an abuse victim and there is NOBODY you can talk to in person, or you are too scared to talk to anyone, you can use this site to talk to me, or ask me questions, privately and anonymously. I don't need your name, address, phone number, or even an email address. I don't need to know anything about you or have any way to contact you. Your first name is all I ask for, but you don't even need to give that if you don't want to. You simply ask me a question or tell me something with this form, and you will be given a special link to go to later to read my reply. Save that link because that's where you will find your answer. If you lose that link, you will have to ask your question again.
I am NOT a counselor, therapist, or any kind of licensed professional in this area and I have not had any training in this field. I'm just someone who knows quite a bit about abuse, wants to help victims, and has been using the Internet for 20 years and knows how to find accurate information when needed.
I know a lot about websites, so since abuse (of all kinds) is a very big deal, I decided I want to make a website to help others. I have many plans for this site, but not a lot of free time, so it will take time for me to have a full site here. I'm going to make this site a place for anyone to find out as much as possible about abuse, abusers, and what to do about it. For now, I hope what I do have here is helpful to some of you. If this site helps save 1 person, it's worth the time it takes to put it together.
Child sexual abusers, aka child molesters or pedophiles, are people who need serious help. They are usually but not always men, and they have different reasons for being who they are or doing what they do. In some cases, because of nationality, religion, or other reasons, men believe they own their wife (or wives) and kids and treat them like property to do with as they please. In other cases, they are people who changed because of stress, depression, or other problems and turned to children or young teenagers because they were easy targets, or because they felt inferior to others their own age. These abusers may only abuse once, or it may become routine, but even if it's only once, that's too many times and it can happen again. The most common type of child sexual abuser is the true pedophile. This is an adult or teenager who is sexually interested in people younger or more vulnerable than them. There was a time when most of the world, myself included, would say these people should be locked up for life or even killed. Statistics say the average child molester molests over 100 children or teenagers. It has now been proven that even these people can be helped. Most of them don't choose to be the way they are. Most even want help when they realise they have "faulty wiring", but it's not easy to get help.
If we all work together, we can help save victims and abusers. If we learn to recognize abusers, we may be able to help them get help before they do any (or more) harm. The section "For Those Who Care" has information that I hope will help others learn how to help victims and abusers.